T.D. Jakes Explains How To Deal With Grief, Coping with Kobe Bryant’s Death + More Notes

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Thirty-six minutes of how to deal with grief, faith and suffering is written down below. Do with it as you please.

You don’t make sense of God‘s plan, you survive it, you grieve it and you go through the process. Where we go wrong is, when we try to explain and understand things that are unexplainable.

It’s okay to be sad, it’s okay to grieve, it’s okay to be angry but right now we are in a survival mode.

Your faith will get you through those unexplainable moments, you have to realize that as terrible and as tragic as something may be, you have to find something that you are grateful for.

Try to find things that are positive in the midst of the pain, that does not mean you have to deny the pain.

God can’t be explained, he must be revealed and you have to have an open heart to allow that to happen in your life.

Many times the most positive things come from our most tragic experiences.

Time will judge the validity of the situation.

You have to keep moving because life keeps moving because bills keep moving, problems don’t stop because you’re in pain.

Sometimes the sadness validates the value of that person. The greater the sadness, the greater the lost. If you’re a great lover, you have great pain when people leave your life.

Faith does not mean the absence of doubt, faith and doubt cohabitate in the same entity. Faith is something we believe but what we like to do is know and you have to believe, that’s the whole premise of being a believer. It’s to believe what you cannot see.

Conflict is a part of life.

Everybody suffers. The emblem of Christianity is a cross and if god didn’t spare his son, he’s not going to spare you. Everybody goes through suffering not just the righteous. It’s the one thing we all have in common.

We were all born and we are all going to die, this is the common denominator of mankind.

Death does not discriminate.

Don’t live waiting on a day to leave, live in every moment. Build your life around living.

Mental illness is not a spiritual issue it’s a health issue. Prayer is therapeutic but it’s not enough for a lot of people who have serious trauma and chemical imbalances, they need to be able to talk and heal.

23% of African Americans are living below the property line.

Minorities are underrepresented in technology and technology is where the world is going.

When you look at the plight of African Americans in this country a lot of people who are fighting to keep the rights that we had from the past and they are very important. However, while we fight to keep those rights that we should already have we also have to think about the future.

We are always on the consumer end and not the producer end.

We have to culturally change how we think about investments and the mentality we have about money. We want to look successful instead of being successful. We spend money on deprecating assets instead of appreciating assets.

The only pipeline we have to the world we want to be in, is what we see on tv but we’ll never watch tv long enough to get there. So we have to stop watching our dreams and create pathways where we can facilitate our dreams.

The problem with being so talented and gifted and being good intentioned is that, sometimes people are so excited about your gift that they take your gift and leave you behind.

No man cared for my soul. (bible scripture)

You need somebody around you who doesn’t just want you for what you do. You need somebody to say are you okay? You look tired get some rest.

Think of the culture shock when someone goes from the hood to being famous? Once you become famous you can’t go back. You can never be anonymous you can be infamous but not anonymous again. So your success can become your prison, and so if you’re going to realize that, we as a community have to be slow to join the bandwagon or stoning people who get into trouble.

We’re all trying to figure out life, we all go through stages and different ages come with different difficulties. Nobody gets it right at every turn because every turn is a different experience. You’ll never get to be a master at your life because the courses keep changing.

The church isn’t taking away from our community like how the liquor store is, the chicken spot etc. not all churches are taking away from the community.

The black church is entrepreneurial in the sense that each church is autonomous.

Everything is about a change of mind. Ex: if I change your economic status but I don’t change your mentality, your status will fall back down to your mindset. Every change starts in the way you think and until you begin to deal with the story you tell yourself and are willing to challenge your own truth, you can’t really help someone to move forward when they told to your old story.

It takes time to change your mind. Change brings about misplacement and you have to give yourself time to adapt to that change and accept that change.

Getting to “worthy” is difficult when you have been abused, or have a difficult past. If you don’t get there you will self sabotage (you can sabotage jobs, relationships etc.) because you don’t feel worthy. Getting to worthy is accepting the good things that God has done in your life and settling in your reality, rather than living the trauma of where you came from.